Menopause can bring on a host of symptoms that can change sexual pleasure and function. Experimenting with sex positions, communicating with your partner, using lubricants and incorporating vibrators can help you maintain a fulfilling sex life even as your body changes.
Sitting on top during penetration can ease pain near the cervix and increase pleasure for both partners. Try these sex positions to experience deeper, more intense G-spot stimulation.
1. You sit on top.
Women in menopause often experience a decrease in their libido. This is because lower levels of estrogen can cause vaginal dryness and a loss of natural lubrication, which makes sexual intercourse uncomfortable and sometimes painful. Fortunately, there are some things that can be done to help keep the sex spark alive, like using a good quality lubricant, trying new toys and positions, and making sure to talk openly with your partner about what you are experiencing.
For example, some postmenopausal women experience pain deep in the vagina near the cervix during sex. Changing up the angle of the pelvis by sitting up in bed and placing your partner on top can reduce this discomfort while also providing extra stimulation for the G-spot. This position also allows for more penetration, if desired.
If you are having trouble reaching an orgasm, try a spooning position on the side. This is a comfortable position that can provide lots of extra sensation and is great for stimulating the clitoris, especially when sex is a little more intimate.
In addition to focusing on sexual arousal, it is important for couples to focus on other ways of connecting and showing affection. This can include cuddling, kissing, intimacy rituals and other non-sexual acts of love. This can make both partners feel loved and valued, which can help maintain a healthy sex drive.
2. You rock your hips.
Women may experience changes in their sexual feelings during menopause due to declining hormones such as oestrogen. But they can still enjoy great sex, provided they make the right adjustments.
One of the most effective ways to boost pleasure is by adding toys, such as vibrators, to sex with your partner. This is not only fun and flirty, but it also helps stimulate the clitoral hood and G-spot.
Another important tip for a woman during this time is to use extra lubrication. This is essential, because estrogen levels decline after menopause and this can cause vaginal dryness, which can make penetration painful for both partners.
The Missionary position, which is done with a pillow under the pelvis, can help improve comfort in this regard. The pillow lifts the pelvis a little higher, which can allow a penis or toy to enter the vagina with less pain.
Women may need to take extra precautions when using the Missionary position, because this can put pressure on the bladder and urethra. This is why it’s best to use the pillow with care, and not place too much weight on it. A woman with a weaker bladder may want to try the Doggy position instead, which is similar but allows her to remain sitting up. This can help her retain control of the pelvis and keep the urethra in a good position for penetration.
3. You doggy style.
Doggy (also known as the ballet dancer or clasp sex position) is one of the most fun sex positions after menopause. It’s also a great angle for penetrative sex as it lets you control the depth of thrusts and allows for lots of clitoral stimulation. It’s a great choice for postmenopausal women who have trouble with face-to-face penetration or find it too arousing.
While some women experience a drop in sexual satisfaction during and after menopause, it’s important to remember that good sex is never out of reach. Experimenting with new sex positions, adding toys and incorporating lubrication can all increase pleasure and satisfaction in the bedroom.
As the sex expert Emily DeNoble points out, “The phrase ‘use it or lose it’ applies to sex during and after menopause.” Getting enough sex can help prevent the loss of estrogen that leads to vaginal dryness and atrophy. It’s also a great way to deal with mood changes, as frequent masturbation can ease menopausal mood swings and anxiety. Just be sure to use protection if you’re not monogamous, as STIs are still a risk for postmenopausal women. (You can get tested for free at most health clinics.) And be sure to speak up about any pain or discomfort, as well as your partners’. Keeping communication open and respectful is key to enjoying sex during menopause.
4. You cowgirl.
The cowgirl position involves your partner lying down on their back with their legs out straight and you sitting straddling them. This position can stimulate the G-spot and clitoris, as well as nipples and anything else within reach. It can also be more intimate for couples and helps focus the attention on each other during penetration, which may boost feelings of satisfaction and arousal.
This position may be especially good for women going through menopause, as it can make them feel more confident. It also allows them to control the pace, vigor, and depth of penetration. Plus, it can help reduce pain for partners who experience vaginal dryness or discomfort during sex due to menopause symptoms.
In addition to helping increase lubrication, this position can help with orgasm by rubbing the clitoris against the partner’s pelvis. The position is easy on the woman and can be done by people of all sizes, ages, and athletic abilities.
Experimenting with sex positions is important for both men and women of all ages. However, it’s important to communicate with your partner and try new things in moderation. For example, if you’re feeling uncomfortable or painful during sex, try changing the position or using a different type of lubrication. If you’re having trouble with arousal, try doing Kegel exercises or using a vibrator or personal lubricant to help increase comfort.
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