A great BJ starts with foreplay. It may feel awkward, but ask your partner what they like. It will help them arouse faster and heat up their engine.
For example, some people find it super sexy to lick their penis and tease them gently with their hands before taking the plunge. Others want to get their mouth on the head of the dick straight away.
1. Start with a suck
If your partner is new to oral sex, it’s a good idea to start by gently teasing and building up to it. That can be as simple as whispering a trigger word or phrase in their ear, or touching and looking at certain parts of their body.
For example, some men like to feel the ridge on the top of their penis where it joins with the shaft. You can try licking it to see if they like that sensation, or even lightly thrusting. But be careful not to go too far – you don’t want to gag!
Some guys also enjoy feeling the urethral opening. You can make this more sensitive by lightly tracing the head of his penis with your tongue in a circular motion. Then, if he wants to move on, you can lick and stroke his testicles to give him the same pleasure. You can also use a little lube to enhance the sensations. This will add to the wetness, warmth and tightness of the suck. And it will also make it more likely that he orgasms!
2. Use your tongue
A good BJ is not just about the mouth – the hands also play an important role. You can use your hands to lick, rub, play, stroke and even kiss that head. But make sure you do this while keeping in mind his sensitivities.
For example, there is a ridge on the head of his penis where it meets the shaft that is especially sensitive for some guys. So if you lick that area while doing a BJ, it might be too much for him.
You can also try gently stroking the head of his penis to increase the pleasure and tension for him. And remember that oral sex is not as one-sided as it’s reputation would suggest – gently teasing him and building up sexual tension to the point where he is practically begging you to take his head in your mouth is a great way to maximize his pleasure and turn him on! You can also try using some tasty lubricant like Durex Play Very Cherry or ID Juicy Mint to amplify the sensations.
3. Make your lips talk
Just like fisting, anal sex, and really good make-out sessions, giving head is most enjoyable when you’re in that post-language space where animal sounds, groans, and roars take over. If you’re comfortable, try to talk as little as possible while focusing on the task at hand.
It’s also important to focus on other areas of his body before you get to his manhood. Gently massaging his crotch and tracing him down there with your fingers is super turn on. You can even use your tongue to tickle him down there. Just be careful not to bite him too hard because he might gag on it!
A big part of oral sex is having the opportunity to communicate with your partner. It can be a huge turn on when you whisper sexy words in their ear or lick around their mouth as they swallow. Having fun and making jokes with your partner is another great way to connect during this super sensual act. This will make them feel safe and help them relax.
4. Use your hands
While oral sex sounds like it should be all about your mouth, that’s not necessarily the case. Using your hands during blow jobs can be a lot of fun and give the both of you some serious pleasure.
For example, you can stroke their penis with your fingertips to get a soft feel and stimulate blood flow. You can also use your thumb to dig into their glans or crotch area, which is sure to drive them crazy.
Another great hand technique is to cup their dick or balls. You can also lightly tickle and lick their glans or crotch to get them even more excited for the main event.
Just make sure to communicate with your partner about what they are comfortable with before trying any of these techniques. After all, you don’t want to accidentally bite down on their penis with your teeth and cause them extreme pain or even worse, sterility! So remember to keep communication lines open and ask them what they enjoy most when giving head. Then, be creative and enjoy this ultimate form of gratification.
5. Play with it
A great BJ doesn’t just mean sucking on the dick. Rather, it’s about using your mouth to stimulate the erogenous zones on his body. That means licking, stroking and tracing the area. You can even tickle the balls with your fingers or run your nails over his cheeks.
Try a kiss trail that moves from your lips to his throat, chest, stomach and groin until you’re at the tip of his dick. Or, lick it up-and-down and in circles, and play around with different tongue shapes, such as wide and flat across the shaft or tight and pointy on the tip.
If you’re going to be down there for a while, give him a countdown by sending dirty texts or sexy photos before you see him. That way, he’ll be thinking about it all day and salivating just waiting for what you have planned. It’s also a good idea to get him worked up beforehand by kissing his hips and thighs, or gently rubbing the tip of his dick. You can also try whispering some titillating naughty words in his ear, or just looking at him in a certain way to trigger his turn-ons.
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