As people age, their bodies change. That doesn’t mean that sex isn’t possible, but it might require some adjustments in the bedroom.
One way to do this is by trying different sex positions. Some are more suited for older couples than others. Here are some of our top picks.
Standing Missionary
Getting older doesn’t have to mean an end to intimate sex, and many of the same positions work just as well with a few tweaks. The missionary position involves both partners standing in close proximity and cradling one another, which is perfect for those with back pain or hip issues because it reduces pressure on the knees. It also frees up the hands to stimulate erogenous zones, making it ideal for couples who want to build towards climax.
This position is also great for women who have had a hysterectomy and are easing back into sex after being cleared by their doctor. The position creates friction against the clitoris, heightening sensations, and is easy on the abdomen.
With a few adjustments, this position can also be done sitting side-by-side, which is ideal for anyone who wants to maintain some independence while in sex. It’s also easy on the lower back, and you can use pillows or blankets for added support. If the man is having trouble thrusting without pain, he can put a pillow under his lower back to raise it so that he’s not pushing all of his weight onto the woman’s knees.
Barstool
While the traditional 69 position can be thrilling with dual oral stimulation, it can also place a lot of strain on the wrists and joints. To give your partner a similar experience without the discomfort, try this sideways version instead. Have both partners lay sideways, heads opposite one another, and line up their genitals for penetration. This is a great position for people with back pain or arthritis and can be enhanced by incorporating a clitoral stimulator or using water-based lube.
While you might associate spooning with Netflix and chill, this cuddle position is great for pre-coital sex and can help build towards climax. The person with limited mobility sits in a chair or on the edge of bed, and their partner straddles them and wraps their arms around them. This position leaves the clitoris accessible for manual stimulation with a vibrator or hands.
As we age, it is important to be aware of how our bodies change and how this affects our sexual ability. However, this doesn’t mean that we have to let go of our sexual dreams or stop exploring different positions altogether.
Cowgirl
Cowgirl is a classic female-on-top position that can spice up sexual intimacy, and help a woman delay her climax. McDevitt notes that it’s also highly adaptable, so the person on top can vary depth, speed and angle of thrusting to keep things exciting. And it allows the penetrating partner to use their arms to support and caress the bottom partner, which creates additional intimate sensations.
The seated Cowgirl sex position is great for couples with joint pain, as it doesn’t put too much pressure on the hips or knees. Essentially, the giving partner stays seated on a chair or sofa and the receiving partner straddles their lap. This allows both partners to touch and kiss their partner throughout sex, as well as stimulate sweet spots and erogenous zones.
It’s important to try a variety of sex positions to keep sexual intimacy fresh and fun, and to ensure that all members of the relationship are fully engaged. Luckily, many of the best sex positions for seniors can easily be adapted to accommodate any age or physical limitations.
Doggy Style
According to a recent AskMen poll, Americans are searching for “doggy style” more than any other sex position. This fun position has the partners on their sides, facing each other and orally stimulating each other’s genitals. It’s not as intimate as other sex positions on this list but it is a great position for those who have mobility issues.
If the partner has back pain, a pillow can be used to relieve stress on joints and pressure points. The giving partner can also vary in depth and pace by allowing the receiving partner to rest in places on their body between thrusting.
Another great variation on this position is called the sit and straddle. This seated position allows both partners to stay anchored on the bed and is ideal for anyone who can’t stand for long periods of time. This position is also perfect for stimulating the G spot and clitoris. It can also be enhanced by using a little bit of lube and kissing throughout foreplay. This position is ideal for couples with fibromyalgia or back problems.
Bending Down
This twist on side-by-side 69 is perfect for seniors who want to give orally, control pace and depth of penetration, and use a vibrator. Unlike the missionary position, this take on side-by-side sex lines up both partners’ genitals and makes it easy for the penetrating partner to orally stimulate the clitoral hood. Plus, this position is easier on the back and knees than other positions, making it a good choice for older couples with back or knee pain.
A variation of doggy style, the spooning technique is another great sex position for seniors who have arthritis. The receptive partner lies down on the bed and uses pillows to support themselves, which reduces pressure on the hips and knees. The penetrating partner can then enter from the rear and stimulate the clitoral hood – an excellent option for sex that is slow, intimate and romantic. For added climax, the receptive partner can wrap their legs around their partner’s chest for additional support. This position is also a good alternative for those who can’t stand for long periods of time due to back pain.
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