If all you know about oral sex is what you see in pornography and from your friends, you may expect to cum every time. But that’s not always the case.
In fact, some guys can’t even climax from a blowjob! There are several reasons why. Some are emotional trauma, while others are physical problems like erectile dysfunction.
Stress
Blowjobs are a form of oral sex that involves stimulating the receiver’s penis with the mouth. They are often sexually satisfying for both partners and can produce orgasms on a physical and psychological level. It is important to know what to expect and how to make a blow job mutually satisfying. You can vary the pressure and depth of the pressure, add stroking with your hands, use your tongue and even decide whether to swallow semen or not.
There is also the visual element that can be exciting, especially if you are both comfortable with it. Many people love the idea of their partner finishing in their mouth, but if swallowing semen isn’t your thing, then having them finish on your chin or closed lips can be just as hot. In order to make the experience pleasurable for both parties, it is important to communicate.
It is a common misconception that blow jobs are not as sexy as penetrative sex, but this is not necessarily true. In fact, some people find blow jobs to be more sexy than penetration. In addition to the physical sensations of a good blow job, there is also the emotional pleasure that comes from making your partner feel special. For many women, this can be a huge turn on. If you’re having trouble orgasming from a blowjob, try not to blame your wife, as this can put her on edge and make her more likely to be defensive about the issue.
Emotional trauma
Some people are unable to experience orgasm from oral sex, especially during a blowjob. This is because they’re not getting the right type of stimulation.
Oral sex is an intensely pleasurable physical sensation, but it’s also psychologically arousing. It gives a feeling of power and trust that can make two people closer together.
It’s important for a husband to reassure his wife that her inability to get him to climax during a blow job is not because she’s doing something wrong, or even that she doesn’t care about him. She may just need a little more stroking of the shaft of his penis, or she might need to try different spots in her mouth or even in her scrotum. She might also need to talk it out with her doctor or a mental health professional for further guidance and help. These professionals are usually the best people to give this kind of advice.
Physical problems
The physical arousal from oral sex is one of the most intense feelings that you can experience. It’s the sensation of your partner stimulating your penis with their mouth, and it’s also a sign of trust that you can feel good about.
However, not everyone is able to get off on oral sex. Some people can’t orgasm from this because of a medical problem, such as damage to nerves in and around the vagina, or scar tissue (from childbirth) that can prevent orgasm. Other medical problems can cause this, such as diabetes or a vitamin D deficiency.
Medications can also reduce orgasms, such as certain blood pressure medications and birth control pills. If you are taking these types of medication, it may be worth discussing this with your doctor, so that a different type can be prescribed.
You can also try masturbating before sex, as this can stimulate the clitoris and lead to orgasm. Or, you could try a hands-on massage, which can also be very pleasurable. Remember, if your wife can’t orgasm from oral sex, that’s not a reflection of her feelings for you or how much she loves you. She’s likely very excited to do so, but she needs the right conditions to be able to give it to you. It’s worth mentioning this to her, so that she doesn’t think you don’t love her.
Erectile dysfunction
If you’re unable to reach orgasm during sexual activity with your partner, it’s important to determine the reason why. This can involve a variety of physical and psychological factors. For example, fatigue caused by a busy schedule or being the primary caregiver to children can interfere with sexual desire. In addition, a number of medical problems can cause sexual dysfunction. These include:
Erectile Dysfunction (ED). Almost all men experience this condition at some point in their lives. The most common cause is aging, which causes the erection to become less turgid and less rigid over time. However, it can also be a result of neurological disorders, vascular disease or side effects from medications. It’s also possible for ED to occur after prostate or bladder surgery or as a result of radiation therapy.
Delayed Ejaculation (DE). Some men can only ejaculate during masturbation or oral sex. This is most often a psychological issue, but it can be due to a variety of factors including traumatic events, cultural or religious taboos, relationship stress or disappointment in sexual realities with a partner compared to with sexual fantasies.
If you’re unable to cum from a blowjob, it’s important to approach the subject carefully with your partner. You want to express your disappointment in a way that doesn’t make her feel unappreciated or insulted. Framing the conversation around how much you appreciate her going out of her way to stimulate your clitoris, rather than telling her she’s not good at it, may make her more likely to help solve the problem with you.
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